So Proud of my Girl! She is fearless, and a Inspiration! Her Name is Stacy LaFontant and so honored to call her my Girlfriend!


So here is a Big Congratulations and Motivation list!  My girlfriend Stacy, who is also my good friend and partner on Girlfriend411.com tells me two weeks ago, she has signed up for some crazy race that is similar to Tough Mudder, and she still needs to train!  We’ll I said girl you are crazy, running, swimming, obstacles, more running, and over 10,000 folks coming out to do the course!  A good friend of ours from our sons school, encouraged her to sign up and do the dam thing!  We’ll she did just that!  Stacy completed her first Warrior Dash, and has inspired me to see anything is possible with determination!  We’ll anyone who knows Stacy, knows that wants she takes on a challenge there is no stopping her!  Here’s my list of why I am so Inspired by this Girlfriend and so should you!


1- She is super mom!  Takes care of her tow little boys all by herself, with help from hubby!  But most of the time it’s just her!  (most of her family lives in LA!)  She trained at home running after her two boys, 1 year old, and a soon to be 7 year old!



2- She is beautiful inside and out, There is nothing she won’t do for you or kids!  She is simply a Gem!  And she gets along with everybody, to know her is to love her!



3- She motivates me, yes say it again!  She motivates me!  She is such a great leader, super talented, and full of ideas!  She has the whole package, and is always willing to share!  I may not do Warrior Dash, but she has me thinking about it!  Why Because she says, I’ll be there every step of the way!  How many of you have girlfriends like that?


4. Her courage is contagious, how many people you know can sign up for a Warrior Dash, not properly train, and finish the dag on thing!  She took it serious, and was on her zone!  Now she wants other’s to feel her amazing feelings of accomplishments! Setting Goals, and following Through!  It all starts with you!


5. She not only finished every course in the Warrior Dash, girlfriend looked fearless, in charge, on top of her game, and Beautiful!  So proud of you Stacy!  Thanks for Inspiring me!




More information about Warrior Dash: https://www.facebook.com/WarriorDash


Choose You! Stop being too busy for yourself girlfriend!

This is for all my busy moms, who put themselves last!  I know we are all so busy taking care of the kids, our spouses, our friends, and our family.  We’ll it’s time to start making yourself a priority and not feel guilty about it!  So as we gear up for Spring, here are my top 10 tips to help you gain your “me” time back, stay focused and you deserve it!  You’ll thank me later girlfriend!

1. Communicate. Write yourself an e-mail or letter with your top five goals for this spring/summer.  Read it out loud and put your action plan in motion to make those goals a reality!

2. Get Moving, just get out and walk around the block, the park, or your backyard.  Walking away the stress always help your mind, body, and soul!

3. Unplug from the phone, computer, facebook, and etc.  You have to give yourself a chance not to be attached to anything and focus on you for at least 1 hour a day.

4. Live on the wild side, go do something that you always wanted to do.  Sure it’s nice to invite friends, but if they have excuses or are too busy, don’t let that stop you.  Take a art class, drive a race car, go get your palm read, go sky diving, just go do something “you” want to do!

5. Meditate, Find at least 15-20 minutes where you can reflect on yourself, your family, and your mental health.

6. Be Unapologetic about choosing “you” time.  Don’t feel bad about making yourself a priority or letting friends and family know that you want to have “me” time.  You have to set the boundaries and people will get the hint.  It’s not personal, it’s all for a better you!

7. Get a massage.  Massages are not only relaxing but it also helps to get your circulation moving.  Your mind, body, and spirit connection is key your to wellness!

8.  Start Saying No!  As you move through life trying to please others, you will have less time for you and your loved ones.  So, don’t feel bad if you can’t attend every party or doing every favor that is asked of you.  The truth is that the party will go on and the job will get done!  You don’t have to feel bad about saying you can’t do something!

9. Start Saying Yes!  It’s ok to ask and allow people to help you.  You don’t have to prove to anybody that you are Super Woman.  It is ok to seek help when your plate is too full, that’s one of the biggest problems busy moms have, we think getting help is a sign of weakness.  When the truth is that is the smartest thing you can do in times of need.

10. Don’t under estimate or put down what you bring to the table.  Never allow anyone to compare your contributions to your household to theirs.  Nobody knows what it’s like to walk in your shoes.  Work, dinner on the table, taking care of the kids, playing with the kids, caring for sick kids, taking care of your spouse or loved ones, cooking,running a company, cleaning, I could go on for days!  The bottom line is every woman I know is juggling it all, in their own way, so never allow anyone to negatively comment or compare there “mom” worth with your daily grind!!

Choose “You” girlfriend, Love Rochelle!



Happy Valentine’s Day!

Love is in the air!  And we all have a lot to be thankful for!  As we get ready to shower our love ones with gifts and cards, let’s remember some simple things we can do to show our friends and family how much we love them!


1. Social Media, create a post letting the world know how much you love your friends and family!

2. Sit down and a write a love a letter to you husband, wife, girlfriend, boyfriend, or current crush!  There is nothing more personal, and it will last forever!

3. Arts and Craft with the kids, Have your kids make cards using construction paper, wrapping paper, paper bags, and anything else you can recycle in the house!

4. Take a “selfie” making a “here’s the love” face, and send it out to your loved ones!

5. Write yourself a love note with three things you want to accomplish in the next 30 days, mail it to yourself and open it 30 days from the day you receive it in the mail!  It’s my trick of putting it out there in the universe, and letting it marinate so when it comes back to you, you will be ready to make it happen!!  And yes, if you need more time after 30 days, cross out what has been completed and mail yourself anything else you still need to complete!  Just get it done!

6. Print out all those great photo’s from you cell phone, and make a collage for the loved one’s in your life!  Priceless!

7. Cook Dinner for your family.   And when you sit down to eat, let everybody write a love note to each other and read it out loud!

8. Call all your girlfriends, and tell them you love them!  No texting or e-mail, There’s nothing like hearing your girlfriend’s voice, laugh, and joy!


Happy Valentine’s Day Girlfriend!

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Parking Lot Rage

I love talking with my mom.  We don’t always see eye to eye but I love her wise perspective on things.  So the topic of our discussion the other day was the parking lot…

Have you ever been in a super crowded parking lot, looking for a space to park?  You drive up and down several aisles and you spot a lady with a shopping cart full of items going toward her car.  You stop and wait as she sees you stopped, but she’s taking her time putting the bags in the trunk.  You fight your internal impulse to get out of your car and help her unload her bags.  You’re sitting with a frown, tapping the steering wheel.   She finally gets in her car, and again takes her time.  You’re thinking “What are you waiting for?”  Finally, she backs out of the spot in your direction.  You see a woman in another car coming from the opposite direction, and you’re thinking, “Oh no, you’re not!”  But the reality is, oh yes she did!  The woman in the other car pulls into “Your spot”.  You attempt to control the flood of emotions that you’re experiencing.  You want to roll down the window and yell at her.  Or just sit there and give her the “evil eye”.  But finally, the Tazmanian devil in you goes back to where it resides; and you go on to find another spot.  You might have a crying two year old in the back seat, which makes your situation even worse.  Reflecting back, was this just an evil, non-caring, only think about myself woman?  Or, could she have been a woman who maybe had a crying two year old of her own at home with a fever? She may have wanted to run in really quickly to pick up some Tylenol and hurry back to her child.  Should she have taken the time to explain that to me and my Tasmanian devil?  Hmmmm.  Maybe, we girlfriends should cut each other a break, just in case…  Or maybe not???


Wake up and Smell the Coffee! I’m Guilty too! Do your forget to make yourself a priority? What about your dreams and goals?

Ok, I have started off the year doing what I said I would not!  Getting bogged down by work!  I said I was going to work hard this year at BALANCE!  Family/Friends/Work/Me  So, this weekend I get myself back on track.  I am also going to get my buddy back on track, we all need a lift every now and then!  The bottom line is if, I don’t find time to do me, then who will?  I am waking up and smelling the coffee before it’s too late!

So here it goes ladies, my top ten tips for getting it right and living the life you want and need to remain true to yourself!

1. Forgive yourself when you fall short.

2. Get up every morning, and count your blessings!  Not what you think you were not blessed with!

3. Support other people, especially other women.  So when your in need you won’t have to look far.  Get yourself some good girlfriends!

4. Treat yourself to something you like and love every week, why wait for someone else to do something that might never happen, when you can make it happen for yourself!

5. It’s ok to Love you, and tell yourself!

6. Take time for you, read, write, run, shop, cook,ski, zip line, blog, do something!

7. Try new things, you might like it!

8.Get Moving and concentrate on you for at least 1 hour a day.

9. Make time for the people you love.

10. Be thankful to be alive, and live your life for you!

Please send us your top 5 tips and we’ll share them next week!  Come on Ladies Let’s uplift each other and create this space for us to have intimate conversations about us for us!

Thanks for making time for me, girlfriend!


American Express Open Forum: 13 Bad Habits to leave Behind in the New Year!

Keeping up with the theme of uplifting all of our girlfriends, we had to share this article from American Express Open Forum!  I know that Stacy and I will be printing this list out and leaving some of these bad habits behind us!


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Hot off the Press! Girlfriend411 Hot Toy List!!

Hot of the Press the Hottest Toys of 2013 for Kids!  Girlfriend411 has personally selected some of the Best Toys for this season!  Enjoy the list, all of these items on this list are bound to be a big hit for the Holidays!!  If you have any questions or need more suggestions, just send us your questions and comments at the bottom of this post. We are always here for you girlfriends!



  1. Skylanders Swap Force Starter Pack, retails for about $74.99 and includes:

1 Video Game.

1 Portal of Power.

3 Skylanders Figures.

3  Character Collector Posters

3 Sticker Sheets with Secret Code

3 Trading Cards.

This is a great gift for your child especially if they have been on Santa’s “nice” list! It comes with so much and worth the price!

Big Hugs Elmo retails for around $49.00.This is a must have for every toddler. Elmo one of the most loved characters generation after generation. What child doesn’t want to be a part of “Elmo’s World”?






Lego prices vary.  Legos are a must this year and every year. It could be ninjago, legend of chima, star wars or the new Friends sets the choice is yours but either way legos must be a gift in your child’s life this year.


Rock and Learn

Roll and Learn Activity Suitcase by Vtech retails for around $36.99.   This is great for children ages 12-36 months. Great for new walkers.


Bananagrams retails for around $14.99.  If you love scrabble you will love Bananagrams. It is great for family game night. Learning while playing is the best gift you can give your child. Great for kids 5 and older.




Disney Doc Mcstuffin Check up center retails for around $64.99.  Every kid wants to be able to make their toys feel better!  This toy is great for hours of nonstop play!



Razor Crazy Cart! It’s suggested retail is $399.00.  This is a great toy for the whole family!  Kids, and some adults who dare to dive in on the fun can get some great play time in on this super cool toy!




Furby Boom, It’s suggested retail is around $49.99.  This is the new generation of Furby’s that interact with your smart phones, tablets, and I pad’s.  It’s like having the best digital best friend!  You will be excited to see how much Furby can do now.



WowWee is actually zombify-ing princesses from loads of popular fairy tales …These cool dolls will retail for $29.99 and are sure to become collectors items!




Hexbug Aquabot Robotic Fish with Bowl retails for around $14.99. It the perfect gift to give young kids who want a pet, and somebody to care for!  The fish come in 8 different colors, and you never have to clean the fish tank.



The Beyblade Octagon Showdown Battle Set retails for $39.99. The cool stage that it comes with allows for kids to display all their cool moves, and have fun for a long time!  It’s all about the battle!



The Speck iGuy Kids Protective Rubberized Cover  retails for around $30.00.  This is a neat gift for any child lucky enough to have – or be getting – an iPad. It fits all iPad models and is made from flexible but tough foam. It also holds the iPad in place for hands-free viewing even when standing upright.


The Infantino Grow-With-Me Activity Gym & Ball Pit  retails for around $59.99.  This is a Baby’s first Christmas or Chanukah must have! This is the perfect grow with me gym.


Tetris Link retails for around $29.95.  The classic video game goes delightfully low-tech. The best part about Tetris is that it also helps kids learn about shapes, color and strategy. Ages 6 and up.


Skyrocket Toys Quick Attach Microscope retails for around $14.99.   Just when you thought there was nothing else your kid could do with your smartphone (or an iPad), we find an attachable microscope. It clips on to any brand of smartphone or tablet, and lets kids zoom in on bugs, clothes, noses—you name i—then take pics and videos they can send to their pals. Ages 6+.


Bey the Way to Play

Tis the season…for me to start thinking about what gifts are in and which requests are out. Yes, I said requests because my son already has his Christmas list.  So of course I being a kid at heart, mom of boys wanted to share with you an awesome gift for the holidays or special occasion for the young guy(s) in your life.   My guys consist of my sons and nephews.  My 6 year old son adores his cousins and misses playing with them so much, with them living on the west coast and us on the east. But leave it to the minds of the young to find a way to still play and compete with each other. With Skype and Hasbro’s BeyBlades my nephews and son have BeyBlade Battles from opposite coast. They can play for hours. My son and his 3 cousins take their “let it rip” battles very serious. I was given a sample of the new BeyWarriors Shogun Steel Octagon Showdown set and surprised my son with it.  Needless to say, he was ecstatic! Right away he got on Skype to show his cousins and of course battle them.  Now, I know what to buy my nephews for Christmas because the words used were “awesome”, “so cool”, “I want those”. My son had the biggest smile and asked me if they have other characters. My BeyBlade boys age range from 5 – 12 years. This product is fun to play with others but also by themselves. My son plays contently with his BeyWarriors by himself when it is too early in the morning to Skype California.  I highly recommend Beywarriors and Beyblades. If your little one is on the younger side start off with BeyBlades they are a little easier to launch in my opinion. Yes, I said my opinion…I too have battled and has said, “let it rip”. My son is 6 but the recommended age of BeyWarriors is 8 years+.  Be on the look out for BeyWarriors at all major toy retailers such as Toys R Us, Target and more. If you are a stay at home shopper check out HasbroToyShop.com and/or amazon. If you are looking for a cool gift this is a sure win!

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Put your boots on Baby! What do they say about you?

A great pair of boots is essential to any wardrobe rotation.  High Heels, Riding Boots, Sexy Boots, Rain Boots, whatever your heart desires!  The bottom line is that this season Boots will be the most talked about fashion accessory.  You can dress them up or down, and a pair of boots can put me in a good mood, especially a great riding boot!  You know as women we tend to wear alot of hats, so I think we should have boots to match those hats!  I know it sounds crazy, but Plenty of my girlfriends and I could spend hours shopping for the perfect pair of boots.  What types of boots are you attracted to?  Or what do your boots say about you?

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You know me, I always like to push the limit and encourage us all to try something new, and items we would never normally where.  The sales person is usually a little annoyed at first, but hey 3-4 girlfriends buying one or two pair of boots a piece, works out to be great for them!!  What is allows for us to do is have good old girlfriend fun, give each other compliments, and most importantly we get to escape for two hours.  Playing dress up has never been so fun, and seriously who could pass up a good pair of boots.

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So ladies go get your favorite boots out of the back of the closet, dust off the boxes of some hot new boots you have not rocked in a long time, or go buy those hot new boots you saw online or at the mall.  Put your boots on girl, and wear them well!  The next time you see a woman with some “hot” boots on be sure to say, “Hey Girlfriend,” I like your boots.  You just might make someone’s day, because you never know what other folks are going through unless you walk in their boots!  So pick up some boots that are inspired by your personality, and wear them well!  I am putting my boots on baby, and I have a different pair for each of my personalities!  The bottom line is to let your boots be an extension of your personality or mood for the day!  Do you girlfriend, and rock those boots!





Start the Conversation

I heard a wise man say, “In today’s society we are always being asked to join the conversation, well I am asking you to start the conversation”. Those words have stuck with me.  I am a newsie, and I am tired of the news.  I just cant watch it any more.  It is either too disturbing to digest, to disappointing to hear, or just so dumb that I can’t stand to see it. Starting the conversation… What’s really on your mind? Me: My heart aches for the lack of attention that  Mental Health issues seriously needs.  Everyday someone is taking their own lives or innocent lives around them. It is just so sad. We can’t send our children to school without feeling uneasy, or go to a mall, movie theatre, place of worship, airports, park, down the damn street. It is ridiculous how much discomfort I feel in places that felt like a second home. I believe we as a people need to be still and reflect, stop judging and try encouraging, turn selfish into selfless and stop all the violence and fighting. Where is the love? Where is that village that it takes to make a neighborhood a community? Where are you? My heart aches but it is not broke. I still believe…Let’s start the conversations…Spread the Love!